By
Rami Abdo
There are two kinds of people in
this world: The dominators and the dominated. Which one do you think you are? I
would suspect at this point for most answers to be equally split. If time and
consideration is properly taken before answering such a broad question however, it may not be so clear cut. Allow me to inject a few
interesting points in order to kick the brain's gears into action with this test of minor
reckoning.
First and foremost an analytical
breakdown in the mind of the meaning of the words, dominator and dominated. Anyone would agree that the word dominator instills positive, powerful
emotions; while dominated signifies a weakness of character, a lack of self
esteem, and a general feeling of being perpetually trodden on by people
belonging in the other group. Perhaps a critical analysis of one’s lifestyle
and choices will ensue, casting doubt on the decisions one made during their
life changing moments. Concepts of imprisoned urbanization and the true meaning
of freedom must be rifled with, leaving one stifled with the need for air. That’s just skimming the surface of a vast
philosophical network of ideologies and beliefs on society, religion,
government, and other domineering bodies of the modern age that can affect one's decision.
As all this information travels
speedily through the synapses and neurons of our brains, it is processed
thoroughly and a final decision has to be eventually made. Inevitably, most of
us would come to this conclusion: We don’t want to be the weaker of the two; We
do have control of our lives and our choices, and we won’t let anyone boss us
around. We will always choose to be the dominators,
for it is a terrifying and nerve wracking thought to consider yourself to be
dominated your entire life; past, present, and future. Only the weakest of us
would be in such a lowly state of depression as to choose to answer the
question with: “my entire life has been a pile of rubbish and I will never rise
from the heap.”
Here I would present a shattering premise
for your consideration. The underlying reasons why people believe themselves to
be the dominators of their societal bubble is because they are in actuality
dominated; dominated by a complex characteristic that is present in the
majority of us. This complex is the need to act superior over others; that
drive to prove our arguments are the right ones; the reasons why we plot the downfall
of our enemies, from a jealous boyfriend fantasizing the demise of his
girlfriend’s suitors to the ex-employee who plots the ruin of his employer.
Scientists sabotage their own research, trying to prove their own hypothesis
instead of working objectively. Philosophers argue over meaningless issues,
simply so that one can rule over the others in intellectual superiority.
Husbands and wives do the same thing (albeit not so gracefully), as do siblings
and friends and any group of any kind across the entire planet in some form or
another.
One reason why this complex exists is
it is a warped version of the survival mechanism, a necessary attribute of
mankind’s animalistic history, used to ensure the continuation of our DNA to
the next generation. This need to dominate others is a way for us to mark our
territories, keep our enemies and peers in check, and make sure we live through
life’s ordeals without too many hiccups. In this sense it starts to gain
clarity and reason. This complex is most evidently seen when a women is introduced
to a group of male friends. The ensuing conversation would usually end up with
the men teasing, criticizing, and generally displaying the faults of the other
males, while at the same time exemplifying their own positive achievements. All
this done in the name of mating rituals that evolved over time from simple head-butting
contests and other Alpha-male rites to whatever warped bewildering puzzle of a
game we have today. Take special notice of it the next time you observe a group
of men around a single woman; They will
subtly hack at each other through snide remarks and body language, undermining
one another until all that is left in the eyes of the desired is the victor. The
age-old alpha male head-butting is still there, just hidden between the lines. Even
in this day and age nobody wants a weak partner that gets pushed around and can’t
protect them. When mating is involved, it’s still survival of the fittest out
there. Even though the stereotype that immediately comes to mind is men
fighting over a beautiful woman, the opposite holds true too. I’ve seen many
cases of two women ending their friendship over a man, an unworthy cause to say
the least.
Another possibility that fashioned this
complex is the mental conditioning created by social norms and morals over what’s
acceptable and what’s not. For example the rise of fashion created a need for
people to fit in with the current trends, an obsession to gather the latest and
best clothes, shoes, toys or whatever else. I highly doubt that Neanderthal man
cared whether his fur-skin cloak was of the latest trends, or whether body piercing
was in or out at that moment. Similarly, this complex that dominates us could have
developed over time from this form of chest thumping. For example, a person
might exaggerate an event in order to draw attention to themselves, or make
sure they have the latest gadgets so as not to be sneered at. We are a product of
our own making; We created a world where our children squander our wealth on
junk and idolize superficial scatterbrains instead of people that really make a
difference. It’s no wonder we have our priorities all screwed up.
It may seem more logical to presume
that this complex is a fusion of both the above possibilities; a survival
mechanism that developed through time into a new social norm. Nowadays, it’s not
socially acceptable anymore for two men to physically fight for a woman or position.
If someone tries to steal your land or possessions, you can’t exact vengeance without
repercussions. Thus mankind has (as mankind usually does) created a more
complex form of dealing with these problems. Put everyone in their place, i.e.
below you, to ensure these things don’t happen. Money comes into play here as
it long replaced physical strength as the decider over who is the better man.
So the dominators are dominated by a
complex that runs their lives, and the dominated are dominated by a complex
that doesn’t. There are no real dominators. The two groups are really one,
because both are run by the same complex machinery; one with its presence, the
other with its absence. Understanding and accepting that last statement is the
first step in acknowledging the existence of this deformed state of being that
we have trapped ourselves into and learning how better to live with its cycle.
It’s not going to go away, it’s just going to twist and corrupt further and
further into itself, and many years from now our descendents will look back at
our behavior and mock us for our savage ways, as we do to our ancestors now.
Once again, which one do you think you are?
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